Someone Special....

Someone special has come into our lives, or should I say two special people. Because this someone special has an adorable child! I'm excited, I'm elated and this person puts a huge smile on my face when my phone buzzes. Its been a crazy few weeks, our oldest came home from University and its the shortest visit yet. So, we packed in a lot of family fun in a short period of time. We had a great time, but I'm a bit tired. I've been meaning to write for some time, in fact I have a few posts I do need to publish, that are sitting waiting. This one gets to jump to the head of the line.

This special person found us, we did not find her. She stumbled across my blog and read all the posts, she got to know us through the blogs before we even knew she was there. She's never commented on any of the posts and as you know I haven't been posting much anyway. We had put our search on the back burner while we went through my health crisis, which thanks to the Lord above we got through and are back to just being "us".

As I was saying, this special lady found us, she wrote us and her mail was returned. Why? I have no clue... But she still wrote us again, as Scott recently said, Who does that?!? I can tell you for the most part if mail is returned, that is it if I think I have the address correct. I'm so glad she wrote us again, in fact I'm thrilled she wrote us again. I loved the look on my husband's face when he saw her picture, I love how he said, We're going to write this one, right?!? It was adorable. I'm so glad we wrote her. I don't know where life will lead us or what God has in store. But I do know that this feels different than anyone we've ever talked to. I feel like we already know her and we have so much in common. Now, I'm not looking for some carbon copy of me. If she has other interests, that is great. It is nice to have things in common though. She doesn't have to look at the world through my eyes, I can celebrate differences as much as I can things we have in common.

Her son is just so handsome, you can tell he is smart. We've seen video and he is just so cute. He reminds me a lot of our second son. You can just tell he is thinking. He is also so sweet. There is one video where he tries to share his ice cream with his Mother, its just so touching. I love to hear about him, what they are doing, going to the park, etc. She is a wonderful Mother, you can tell he is her whole world and her priority. She feels the same way about him as we do about the boys. There is NOTHING more important than our children and our family. Finding someone who feels that way has been our priority. He deserves the best, he deserves a great family and so does she. The fact that she is looking for a family, not just a husband, well that I fully believe. Not because I want to believe it, but you can tell that she means it.

Its interesting that when you find someone who you feel a special bond with, its interesting that things you never thought you could find yourself thinking or doing...Well, I just have to say that sometimes you surprise yourself. Now, I'm never going to say what this is, but there was something that a month ago I would have thought it would be a deal breaker. That said, I would like to say the content of her character has already been proven, because of that and some prayer along with some education on our part. This deal breaker is not a deal breaker at all, now it might be with someone else, but not with her. Now our reaction; surprised Scott some, it surprised me a bit and it surprised her as well. God works that way, he helps you through things and helps you grow in ways you never thought possible. This time he did it rather quickly, we prayed and I can tell you I have never felt such an immediate  answer to my prayer in all my life. I felt as if he had tapped me on the shoulder and showed me the way. Even filling my head with words that made perfect sense to the situation. Words I didn't have earlier before the prayer. Scott had the same experience and it took us both by surprise. I do believe God is taking the lead, I'm going to trust Him. The past is the past, the only thing that matters is where we go from here.

Now, the only sense of frustration I have found so far is that I wish we lived closer. I want to just make a date and go out to dinner. I want to go to the movies or go to the park with her. Its frustrating and this is only the beginning! I know that we are just getting to know each other and there will be visits. But right now, I just wish we could get the two of them together with our family. I want to do things together! The fact that we can't at the moment.... Well, it is bothering me more than I would have ever imagined. We are new to this long distance thing... Its a new stage for all of us. She's new to all this too. So, we are going down this journey together and we will see where we end up. Let's hope with God's help, we might just end up a family.  

I must admit, I'm a little scared. Anyone who knows me well knows I wear my heart on my sleeve. Its something I can't change, its who I am, I don't think I want to change it. It does mean, that I am easily hurt. I know that in order to open up your heart to someone there is a chance you could get hurt. I'll take that chance, because if you don't take that chance you might miss out on something special or someone special. She thinks that this is what she wants, I hope it is, but she's new to all this and hasn't been looking for a family for very long. That scares me a bit. I also hope that our strong feelings off the bat don't scare her. I can say that when Scott and I started dating, he had this feeling right away that I was the one. It scared me a bit, even though I knew he wasn't in a hurry and he wasn't expecting anything immediate. It still scared me. He has always been able to pick things up with feelings, he's often right about them.  I'm so glad it didn't scare me off though, because I would have missed out on so much. I wouldn't change spending my life with Scott for anything or everything in the whole wide world. What we have is precious and priceless in my opinion. I hope that we can share that with her. I think she's special and she deserves to be happy. She deserves to be supported in what she wants out of life and so does her son. The both deserves a loving family.

When I started this blog, I asked God to send us the right person for our family. Scott and I have prayed that I can't tell you how many times. Just when you least expect it, sometimes God answers your prayers. At the very least, we can end up friends. But I can say whole heartily that I hope it ends up something far more than a friendship. One thing we did ask God, is to recognize when God sent us the right person, I think we've done that. Let's hope that when we find that right person, she's able to recognize that we're the right family for her.

Now, we're not in a rush. We are going to take our times and get this right. We're just going to get to know each other, see how the pieces fall in place and where God leads us. No matter what, I'm glad we've met someone special.

I'm not picking your pocket, nor am I breaking your leg.

On our journey, I've come across all kinds of people. From those who email you just to tell you they don't agree with what you're doing, other families searching, women searching for families, to haters who aren't just sharing their opinion, but are down right abusive. And then there are people interested in what we are doing and want to know more, people writing papers, etc.

I've made some great friends, each one means a lot to me. I'm still in touch with some of them, others I lost contact with when I was absent. I'm glad to be back and working on my blog again. We always seem to have a lot going on and busy, as happens when you have a busy family. I plan on sharing more of what we are doing on a regular basis, so that you can get to know us better.

Recently, I made a new friend. I have to say, we have had a lot of fun getting to know each other; we laugh and often finish each others sentences. She's very easy to talk to and I find myself looking forward to talking to her and so does Scott. I don't really know where things will lead. We have a great deal in common, but right now it is far too early to say this person is anything other than a friend. Her life is not ready for anything serious at the moment, there are some loose ends, but who knows what the future holds.

I would say all in all, the people I have come across far outweigh those that are negative. Even if there are times when there is more hate mail in my box than positive, those that are positive over ride anything negative. Perhaps I do wear my heart on my sleeve. Yet, I'm not going to change who I am or what I want out of life because of the negativity of others. What I can't believe is that I actually allowed the negativity of others to keep me from sharing here on my blog. Doing so only allows those haters to control you, perhaps that is their real motive. Control.

What a sad existence one must have to have nothing better to do than to try and upset others. You have a right to your opinion, but you don't have the right to share it in a degrading, insulting way. The truth is that I don't care if you agree with our search or not. As long as what I am doing does not hurt you in any way, you really have no right to dictate my life. One of our founding Fathers, Thomas Jefferson once said, "If it It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg." In other words, people have the right to live the lives of their choosing as long as it didn't hurt others. Our search for another soul mate does not hurt you, nor am I asking you to pay for it.

Think of it this way, I have the freedom (ie. right) to swing my arm if I want to, but I don't have the right to swing my arm and injure you. Do you see my point? It doesn't effect you, its our lives, its our marriage. Some are worried that its against God's law, thank you for your concern for my soul, but my relationship and my actions are between God and I. Again, it does not concern you.

You are free to express your opinion, I have no problem with that. But you don't have the freedom to bully, call names, insult my intelligence, slander or make up assumptions about my marriage. Got it? I won't allow you to degrade me on my own blog, your words will not be published, they will not be taken to heart. Opinions are welcome, abuse is not.

I hope no one takes this the wrong way. I'm open to meeting new friends and new people. I love doing so, but I am not going to let the bullies effect my behavior anymore. I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going to change who I am or what I want because you don't agree. While I am always willing to respectfully hear the other side of the debate, I'm not going to publish blatant harassing comments.

I'm not picking your pocket, nor am I breaking your leg. I'm standing or I should say, we are standing on our own feet. We are united in our decision to feel that this is where God is leading us and this is what is right for our family.

What do you think?

So, I've changed the look of the blog! What do you think? I love the colors and so does Scott. It wasn't exactly what I was looking for, but I fell in love with it.

Isn't that sometimes like life? You are looking for something or even someone, but just when you are sure of what your looking for life throws something at you. Wham, you find yourself head over heels with something or someone you didn't expect, but are absolutely happy and turns out that was what you needed all along.

Sometimes, I think people are so set in what they think they want in their future relationship and are too closed off. They don't open themselves up to the possibility that maybe some of their deal breakers are keeping them from the right person. I think it happens in poly relationships and in mono ones as well.

Why not just get to know someone and see where it leads, you could find out that those deal breakers, weren't quite so important after all. We all grow and change through life. None of us stay the same. If we close ourselves of from the what if, what do we miss?!? Could be quite a lot!

Just a thought, let me know what you think!

The picture of the beach heart is not mine.

Things are heating up!

In Arizona that is! Our weather is getting warmer and it feels like Winter is over. We've had the windows open more this year than a lot of years. Its been great. The past winters we went from heat to a/c or from a/c to heat, with little time in between with the windows open. I LOVE having the windows open.

I haven't been on here in quite awhile, my usage of the blog has been quite sporadic for quite awhile. We had a lot going on with the family and I was tired all the time.

Well, it turned out I had a major health issue, 3 large tumors to be exact. I've had surgery and by the grace of God and to the surprise of the Mayo clinic the tumors were benign. But this whole health issue did take a tole on me to be sure. I have an amazing family, I have an amazing husband. Who said, I don't care what the cost, just find out what is wrong and help her. I'm so fortunate to be so blessed. There were times when the whole thing was quite scary, my family and especially my husband was there for me all the way. When I was scared, when I was in pain, when the Doctors were sure I had cancer. When I was in ICU after surgery. I may have one less ovary and am glad to have the tumors out of my body. But going through it all made us stronger than ever.

I'm getting my strength back, still have some other things to get straightened out health wise. But my family is behind me and I am cancer free. That is an amazing feeling. I'll talk more about this in posts to come, but for right now that is all!

Happy Mothers Day!

Happy Mothers Day to all my Mom friends! I love being a Mother, some say it's a thankless job, but I do not agree. My family lets me know they appreciate me and love me daily. I know that I'm fortunate and I thank God that he blessed me with my family.

Scott woke up, he brought breakfast up to bed and we spent time together before the boys were up! We let them sleep late, so it was nice to have the alone time together. Yes, Mothers Day can be romantic!!! I loved my cards, the boys cards are almost always funny, which I love since I know they put the time into it to pick them out. The card from Scott was funny this year, but what he wrote on it was romantic and from the heart. It was the best of both worlds! I was pleased with all the gifts! The boys wrapped their gifts themselves, even picked out their own wrapping paper. It's interesting to see what kind of wrapping paper each of them picks on their own. It gives you a window into their own style. They even had bows to match, their wrapping skills have come a long way over the years, I was impressed. While I loved what the boys picked out. My favorite gifts were from Scott, I love Philosophy!!!! He remembered that I wanted Pure Grace, so he gave me the fragrance and body lotion! He is tricky! He always tapes like crazy and makes you work to get into your presents! I thought I was going to have it easy when I saw the gift bag, but he had wrapped them before putting them in the gift bag!! He also gave me the Coconut frosting shower gel as well. (What I love about Philosophy is that its actually shampoo, shower gel and bubble bath. Makes your hair smell SO good! If you haven't tried it, you are missing out!) I was thrilled. Yes, I could buy those things for myself if I wanted, but there is something special about getting them as gifts.

I took a LONG afternoon nap, which was great. I had a horrific migraine yesterday, it ran into the wee hours of the morning. Needless to say, I didn't get much sleep last night. So, one of the best things about today was that the migraine let up so I could truly enjoy Mothers Day, Praise God for that!!!

We even made some plans for next year, we plan on having a Mothers Day brunch at our house. We will be more than settled in the new house and living close to part of my family. Instead of sending flowers, we can give them in person! Creating new traditions in our new home.

Mothers Day to me isn't just about the gifts, it's about being with the family. I love being appreciated of course, who doesn't? It's nice to have a day dedicated just to thanking you for being a great Mom. I'm fortunate that I have a family that thanks me everyday. I feel loved, not just today, but everyday and that is important!

*The photo is from the internet and not one we took.

Plans for this Summer!

Our biggest plan is to finally move! I still haven't found a house that I like near as much as the one I liked last year. I thought we came close to it and then found out that there were power lines not that far from it. We will not move near major power lines. Even if being around all that EMF wasn't bad for you (I find that hard to believe). If you buy a home near major power lines it would only take just ONE major credible study saying they cause cancer and your property value would plummet! No thank you!

A bit of good news for us, is that it turns out the people who bought our favorite house are going to be putting it back on the market. Our agent is now talking to their previous agent. We are hoping to make an offer before they put it on the market formally. Keep your fingers crossed, because it's a wonderful house! And like I said, we haven't found one that compares to it.

We are going to CA this month to go see family, it will also be a a great family vacation. I love Southern CA, but wouldn't want to live in OC anymore. However, I do like to visit! We will be hitting the beach of course, the boys love to boogie board. Of course, we all wish we were going to Hawaii again, but not this year. Although the boys keep asking WHEN we are going going back! Scott's brother wanted us to go to Lake Tahoe with him, but I just can't see us fitting it in this summer. He wanted to go on vacation with all of us, since we had such a good time last year. Scott's parents have rented a condo for 2 weeks this summer as they go back to Hawaii any chance they get. Scott's brother made a joke about everyone dropping in on them! I am sure they would not like us trying to fit into a condo with them, it was so great to have such a large beach house last year. We will be seeing a lot of family while we are in CA, which will be great. We can fit in all our goodbyes! We do plan on going home to CA once in awhile after the move. I'm sure they will come visit us as well, even though they keep fussing about us moving to the mid-west! Family IS important to us! They can drive you crazy sometimes, but we love them! In addition, we have some friends we want to fit in seeing, when we go home we try to see them if possible.

We had family photos taken last year on vacation. The boys actually enjoyed our photo session on the beach. We have thought about finding a photographer to take them here in Arizona before the move. Not that we don't have photos we've taken all over the place... But it's nice to have someone else take them for a change. We are going to have to decide quickly though, because it's heating up here! I really just do not want to be out having our pictures taken in the desert when it's 115! I will say our weather here is better this year than usual, which is really nice.

A trip to Vegas! I love Vegas, even as a child I loved going to Vegas. We have some family there and some friends from when Scott was in the Air Force. We want to try and make a quick trip. There is some talk that some of Scott's siblings will join us in Vegas, we will see.

We also plan on doing something with friends here before we leave, some sort of party. Saying goodbye to friends does make me sad. Although, I remind myself I will be meeting new people and making new friends. Maybe we will even find our second wife among our new friends! You never know what is on the horizon!

(Scott took the photo on this blog this winter.)

Where we are today...

Wow, it's been awhile since I've written. Life just gets busy, we are still in Arizona. We delayed our plans for a little while, but will be moving before this summer is over. I'm excited about the move, as is the rest of our family. We have a couple of houses we have our eye on, hoping some more pop up now that the weather is warming, it's exciting. In the meantime, we've done a ton to our house that we will be putting up for rent. We put in new floors in the bathrooms, they are gorgeous! And all of the tile work is done downstairs, I love how the herringbone with insert pattern turned out, Hubby did an amazing job! All is done with the exception of the laundry room.

We haven't done a lot in looking for a sister-wife. We haven't changed our minds, we have never re-considered, it is still our hope and prayer that we will find the right person for our family. For the most part we are just waiting until after the move before doing some more serious looking.

Week before last we had a fabulous weekend in Scottsdale without the kids. It was a lot of fun. We went to the Culinary Festival, met up with friends and then ended up at our favorite nightspot. Then slept in! We plan on coming back to AZ for getaways after the move, perhaps someday we will be doing that with a sisterwife! Family is everything, but it's VERY important to have time as a couple.

So, that is where we are at the moment, we just have put things in God's hands and see where we go from here. In the meantime, we are just enjoying our friends here in Arizona before the move. I'm glad we've had more time with them than we planned. So, in the end it all worked out.

I'm posting one of our pictures from when we were in Hawaii! I'm not going to keep it up forever. I have to saw one of the biggest reasons I stayed away for awhile were some threatening emails. However, I've decided I will no longer retreat because some ignorant person wants to try to control my life and my actions by making threats!